NLP Techniques Vs NLP Skills – What’s More Important?

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what should you focus on more learning
NLP techniques and processes or focusing on cultivating NLP skills stay tuned hey
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basis without skill NLP techniques and processes will work sometimes at their
worst they won't work at all at their best
it'll be haphazard so I often tell my students to really focus on cultivating
NLP skills know what skills am I talking about
I'll get to that in a moment I was just recently in New Orleans I went home to
visit that's where I'm from and I also had just taken a Brazilian Jujitsu a few
months ago and I didn't want to not practice for an entire week while I was
vacationing and visiting with family and friends so I found two different in two
different locations my parents live outside of New Orleans and then there
was actually in New Orleans proper so I went to two different places and it was
Brazilian Jujitsu so it's the same art that I practice and a lot of the things
were the same basically how we warm up and they teach a technique then we we
practice it on each other and then we do some sparring one thing I notice in both
of the classes that I went to was they emphasize more learning technique I
found this very interesting because in the class that I take here in California
I felt like the instructor didn't focus enough on teaching us new techniques I
felt like only know a few techniques and he keeps sort of reteaching the same
techniques over and over even when it's far to say that when he is competing
which he's a top competitor old competitor that he only uses about
three techniques and I thought to myself well what's the point in having all
these techniques if you're only using like three so when I was taking these
classes in Louisiana I was very happy because I was learning all these new
techniques but I noticed something very interesting that I'm just a white belt
and I was very strong against the students in this class and both these
classes I went up against some of the higher belts and I don't want to say I
beat everybody because that wouldn't be true but I performed quite well in fact
at the second class that I went to I think I performed so well that the
instructor who was a black belt wanted to spar with me and kind of whip up on
me a little bit just to show me that there are serious class and there have
serious students and I had no doubt about that but he kind of whipped up on
me a little bit not he didn't hurt me anyway it wasn't anything bad but he
kind of put it on my learning from that was that the skill is more important
than the technique because without the skill if you can't control the fight
then you can't set up the techniques you can't even make the techniques work
because the techniques that we were being taught in these classes none of
these guys who were in these classes were able to pull any of those
techniques on me they just reverted back to their very standard chokes and
armbars and and that those sort of techniques I didn't do it do any of the
fancy stuff really because they couldn't control me that way I controlled most of
the sparring sessions that I did it started to make sense to me because in
the class that I take here in California we do a lot of sparring which means we
get better conditioning and we we get that practice of cultivating the skill
of body movement and how to move our weight and how to manipulate the other
person's body weight against them it made me realize that all the times that
I've resourced coached for NLP trainings and the times that I've taught NLP
trainings what I hear most from students is they want to learn more techniques
they want to learn more processes and I keep telling them the same thing it
doesn't matter if you learn more techniques and more processes if you
don't have the skill there's nothing so magical about the techniques and
processes they won't work most of the time if
you're not able to gain rapport with someone and if you're not if you don't
have the sensory acuity and calibration skills you won't know when something is
working and when it's not working so those skills that I was talking about or
basically you need to know how to get in the rapport with someone you also need
to know how to be in congruence with yourself if you're if you're using NLP
on yourself so what creates rapport well it's those matching and mirroring
matching someone's breathing calibration skills and the sensory acuity that goes
with that so you develop that since your acuity and if you're not sure what I'm
talking about just go to my website and LP – gem calm I have some free training
on sensory acuity and calibration you can download it right from the website
and start using it immediately so when you cultivate that skill of sensory
acuity and calibration you're able to get in rapport with people very quickly
so you can if you're a coach you're not going to be able to help people change
if you're not a rapport with them if you're want to persuade or influence
someone if say if it's like a sale situation it's not going to happen
unless you can develop rapport and keep that staying rapport with that person
the entire time that you're moving them through whatever process it is that
you're moving them through if you're using NLP on yourself if you can't tell
if you're congruent about something if you don't if you're not able to
recognize resistance coming up in yourself and you just push yourself
through a process or some technique that you're using the change isn't going to
last the change you're going to revert back because you haven't dealt with that
resistance so you need congruence with yourself if you want to be effective at
using NLP on yourself for lasting change and if you want to
help someone else make changes or you want to influence someone you have to be
able to recognize what's going on with them you have to be able to get in
rapport and you have to be able to calibrate their States so that you know
that they're in a state of rapport first of all and that if you're doing the
change work you need to see them something happening in them physically
that lets you know that it's working and that sometimes things will come up
objections will come up and if you ask the person you say
you know are there any objections to this change or what we're doing here
they may verbally say no but their body says something else and you need to be
able to pick up on that so again if you don't have the skills
sometimes NLP processes will still work even if you don't have the skills but
it's going to be haphazard it's going to it's most likely not going to work and
this is the complaint that I hear people say all the time oh you know pee doesn't
work well if you just pull out a process and try it once
chances are it's not going to that's like saying I can teach you one jujitsu
technique and then you're gonna go beat everybody that you wrestle with it's not
going to happen you need to cultivate the skills and when you cultivate the
skills that you can make almost anything work I've created processes and
techniques on the spot no because I had the skills to do it I had the skills to
make it work I could make it work so and that's not to diminish the processes
processes and techniques are important the processes and techniques are what
they are because out of necessity to change or out of mapping how our
personality works and how change works that's where these techniques and
processes come from it's sort of like a map to guide you through the way to get
to where you want to go but if you don't have the vehicle if you don't have the
fuel it's not going to happen what my recommendation would be here is just
focus on three main techniques or three main processes anchoring is a great one
mapping across is another great one and then like I said the sensory acuity and
calibration skills those are techniques and their skills so when you're
practicing like matching and mirroring you're also cultivating sensory acuity
you're cultivating calibration skills so those are great to practice as a
technique and process while you cultivate the skill so if you master I
mean really master three techniques are three NLP processes you're going to be
so much more effective than if you know 20 if you've memorized 20 processes
Brousseau used to say I fear I don't fear the man who knows 10,000 kicks
I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times so take just three
processes or techniques really practice them practice them daily
on yourself and with other people and stick to those until you really master
them and you're gonna cultivate that skill along the way and then only then
start moving on to learning more and more techniques and processes I promise
you this is a much better way to go about it and you will find much much
better results if you do it this way than if you just try to memorize a bunch
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