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EVERYTHING GENDER (Part 1) | ABC’s of LGBT

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*Burps* Already burping! Literally haven’t even opened beer and already burping. *sighs* I feel like we haven’t rocked a bow tie in a while so I’m bringing it back… …and I am actually wearing real pants in this video; look at these are pants! *Burps loudly* WOAH! *burps quieter* nice! Hello youtube. So you may remember a while ago, when I did my first instalment of the series “The ABC’s of LGBT. In that first episode we talked about some pretty cool things like…

Bi erasure, pansexuality, gender blind, queer or multisexual. Asexual, demisexual, skoliosexuality… And at the end of that video I said: “Tune in next week to explore gender and hopefully meet some non-binary guests!” Oh boy did I overestimate my speedy-video-making abilities… …and underestimate the amount of gender diversity out there! But after several I am finally joined by some special guests… …to help you bone up on your gender knowledge! We’re going to cover a ton of concepts and gender vocab words like… schwaare you ready *clears throat* *just read what’s on the screen* And the cool part is because diversity is essentially infinite, there will probably be some gender identities we left out.

And that’ll just be more to learn about later! Because this is so much information, each word on the screen is a clickable annotation… …that will take you to part of the video where that word is discussed at. And just in case youtube annotations are being glitchy, which happens frequently, or if you’re on a mobile device I have listed the time signature for each word in the description below. You can skip to wherever you want, that took a really long time, you’re welcome! *laughs* Also this video was only part one of two, so if the word you’re interested in is not clickable yet you might have to wait a few days for the next episode to come out Because I’m cisgender and coming from a place of privilege, I’m gonna act more as a moderator. I would absolutely hate to misspeak or misrepresent anybody so for that reason you’re going to get the bulk of your education today from some special guests/gender diversity experts! So Jake, why don’t you take it away with our first topic which is biological sex vs.

Gender identity vs. gender expression There are many aspects to a person’s gender in relation to their body First of all you have biological sex This is normally defined as the genitalia and body that you were born into. This biological sex does not define your gender or how you identify. Gender identity is the way that you identify up here, in your head. This can be, again, a whole multitude of things. You have male, you’ve got female, and then you’ve got the beautiful world of non-binary. You also have gender expression Which is the way you choose to express your gender. This is a lot more complicated to explain, because it’s not necessarily just within binary gender it could be a mix of traditional gender rolls, it could be way outside the world of gender rolls, it can be absolutely anything.

For example, like me, assigned female at birth; you could identify as male, but you could express yourself through traditional male gender rolls, with a couple of “female” gender rolls thrown in there like, occasionally I wear makeup, I’ll wear pink things, I’ll wear flowers, I’ll dye my hair a lot, and those things are seen as quite traditionally “female” but I don’t care ’cause I’m male, and those happen to be the things that I kind of like.

That totally makes sense! I identify as a woman but with suspenders and a bow tie, I suppose I don’t always traditionally express that way. Wow it’s so crazy and awesome that things you might expect to be strongly linked, like sex, gender and expression, can really be so different. And our next special guest is here to tell us some more about that. I think a lot of people are beginning to understand the difference between biological sex and gender identity, the fact that you don’t have to identify with the gender that you’re assigned at birth based on ypur biological sex, but what I think a lot of people still have a lot of trouble understanding the difference between gender expression and gender identity, which is the fact that the way you present yourself does not necessarily have to line up with your identity. In my case, for example, I was assigned male at birth but I choose to identify as female, she and her are my pronouns, and everything that comes with it, but I continue to present in a masculine way, everything from my clothes, to my voice, to my beard, maybe except for my nails, are traditionally masculine, and that’s fine, but it’s something that I think a lot of people at this point still don’t understand, because it’s unusual.

And one of the identities that can occur when biological sex and gender don’t match up is trans. Jazmine can you tell us more about that? Let’s start this off with the gender identity most people don’t realize they are which would be cisgender. Cisgender is the term used to label or describe somebody whose gender matches up with their assigned sex at birth. An example of this is when someone is born and their sex is declared male or female based off of the genitals, if they grow up and they identify with that gender, male or female, their cisgender, you know like Beyonce who was born female and identifies as a woman, a grown woman *singing* “I’m a grown woman!” Now transgender is the opposite of cisgender.

Trans means to go from one place to another, and gender is what you identify as. So to be transgender pretty much means to go from presenting yourself and, well, being one gender, to another. In my case, I was born a boy, but never really felt like one, I felt more female or something like that, and so I decided to follow my heart and transition, which means I would start doing things that are attached to the female gender, such as wearing dresses, putting on makeup, growing out my hair, using she and her pronouns. During my transition ‘hormone replacement therapy’ or HRT for short, which means I took anti-testosterone pills and estrogen pills, so my hormones just did a full on flip. Thank you so much and Benton, what are some different kinds of trans identities? Trans man / woman is basically someone who is transgender who identifies as a man or a woman.

FTM and MTF: these are simply just acronyms for ‘female to male’ and ‘male to female’. MTM and FTF: I’ve never actually heard of MTM and FTF so I had to look it up, and it is ‘male to male’ and ‘female to female’ because some people don’t like to say they’re transitioning from a female to male, and they were male all along, so hence the term ‘male to male’. Oh I get it so they’re still transitioning but only in presentation not gender.

They were say female all along but they now present as female as well. Cool. And I’ve heard the word ‘dysphoria’, what does that mean? Dysphoria is this sort of sadness that takes over you and you become very aware of everything that you feel is wrong with your body. Got it. Now Jazmine I wanna learn about some trans language I can use. I know that some words are more inclusive, respectful and PC (politically correct) than others.

Can you tell me about what words I should use and what terms I should avoid? Now ‘transgendered’ predominantly means the same thing as transgender but it is the past tense format of it, which is not only wrong for most but confusing. Saying “I am transgendered” is like me saying “I am Indianed” which is wrong because in both past and present tense, I am an Indian woman, not Indianed, not transgendered.

Transexual is an older term for people whose gender identity is different from their assigned sex, not like transgender though, kind of like transgender, but a transexual individual usually want some type of gender reassignment surgery, or otherwise known as a ‘sex change’. You know many don’t like this term though, because it’s thought to be really freaking clinical, you know transgender is the same, but it’s more socially accepted. You know if I get a sex change one day and grow a vagina, okay well not grow a vagina, more like just cut mine off and then remould it, but like I’ll have a vagina and by definition I will be a transexual woman. You know I personally don’t think I will adopt the term though, solely because I feel the term has been tarnished by the media, a term that most uneducated minds would use as an insult, and although I wouldn’t allow myself to be offended if somebody uses it as an insult, I know it would still be hurtful to be ridiculed for essentially being myself.

Trans is an umbrella term used for all individuals who experience some form of gender or identity issue, like transgender, transexual, genderqueer people and more. This is probably the safest term to refer to someone if you do not know what they exclusively identify as. That being said it is important to acknowledge that while some people may fit under this definition they may not identify as such. And now for a little bit of controversy because I know y’all love a comment war, in researching this script… I came across a huge online debate on whether we should use the asterisk at the end of trans or not. You see, more often than not on LGBT articles, you see a growing trend for a while was adding a little star at the end of the word trans, almost to signify there was more to it, but of course came with no later explanation.

Originally the asterisk was used with the intentions of making this already vast umbrella term even wider, to accomodate and include people who crave the ever so stress-inducing urge to find a label in the “office depot” (speaking quickly, can’t tell what she said?) that is our society. Sadly though, there came to be some complications with making this term so open. It allegedly started being used by you know certain individuals, you know who probably shouldn’t be using them, in particular it seems like cisgender people who cross dress ended up taking some form of ownership of you know the asterisk, you know making what was an umbrella term for those who suffer with actual gender dysphoria open up to those who simply dress up for fun and play around with gender.

Transvestite is a very well known term that predominantly gets used to refer to trans people, you know the mass public is a b*tch, sometimes just decide to use the wrong word to refer to transgender people for no reason whatsoever. See the word transvestite is not only extremely offensive in any use but it is also the incorrect way to refer to someone is a cross dresser. A transvestite by definition is an individual who wears the clothing of the opposite gender but who are comfortable with their anatomy. The proper term for this is cross dresser: pretty much a cisgender person who wears the clothes of the opposite gender for fun or, you know like, ‘fun’ fun *clicks tongue as winks*.

Funnily enough in my research of the word it predominantly is used to refer to men who dress in ‘women’s’ clothing, “Why?” you ask, because in our society it seems like women wearing men’s clothing is pretty much a social norm at this point, and it’s not an issue so women wouldn’t really have a need to refer to themselves as cross dressers for something that’s ‘normal’, as opposed to men who are ashamed for wearing anything even slightly feminine. Now to speak about something people confuse cross dressers with all the time, drag queens and drag kings. Drag is the act of dressing in gendered clothing and adopting the behaviours of the opposite gender. Drag queens perform femininity theatrically whilst drag kings perform masculinity theatrically. You see drag is performed as a plethora of things ranging from political statements to parodies to things as simple as entertainment.

Participating in drag or cross dressing of any form does not dictate your sexuality, your gender identity or your sexual identity, so keep that in mind next time you wanna assume a drag queen is gay, I’ve done that I got slapped, it was not fun. Awesome! Now moving on, I’ve heard of the terms ‘gender binary’ and ‘PGP’s’, how are those things related to trans people, Sky? The gender binary refers to there being only two genders, man or woman, in society. The gender binary is a social construct that essentially limits the roles that men and women can play in society, it predisposes them to certain stereotypes and the certain types of roles they should be playing in their day to day lives. In reality there are infinite genders, I think that gender exists on a continuum and on a spectrum.

For me personally, the gender binary enforced a lot of stereotypes on me when I was coming out as transgender and transitioning to be a man, I felt a pressure, a societal pressure to fit into a certain stereotype or box. Now though, I feel free to be me, and I think that with knowledge the gender binary and this notion of there being only to genders is getting destroyed. Preferred Gender Pronouns or PGP’s are the pronouns someone likes to be referred to as, some examples are masculine pronouns such as he or his, feminine pronouns such as she or hers, or gender neutral pronouns such as they or theirs. I personally think that the best time to ask for someone’s preferred gender pronouns is when you meet them. Just like your asking their name, you ask their pronouns, this way it’s easier to talk about them, and I think that overall, it’s a great practice to have when you approach somebody, it gets the conversation going, and then they might spread that to other people and then we’re not going to be assuming people’s pronouns anymore, so that would be fantastic.

Essentially assuming someone’s pronouns, you might misgender them by assuming that they might want feminine or masculine pronouns, you don’t know and so therefore feel like they’re not understood, they’re not being referred to correctly, it can be very closetting to be referred to as the wrong pronouns, and also you can’t tell someone’s pronouns from the outside, there’s just no way, it’s like the same way you wouldn’t be able to tell someone’s name unless they had a name tag sticker on. If you currently have been assuming someone’s pronouns and you are actually thinking to yourself, “I’ve never asked this person what they’re preferred pronouns are” you can always go to them saying, “hey I just learnt what PGP’s are, they’re just preferred gender pronouns, and I realised I’ve been assuming what yours are, I’m so sorry, what preferred gender pronouns do you have?” And then you guys can have a conversation and maybe they don’t even know what a pronoun is, who knows? It could be wonderful.

As far as gender neutral pronouns, like I just referred to they and them, there are many types of gender neutral pronouns, such as *sounds like* ‘zee’ or ‘zeer’, ‘hee’ or ‘here’, there are many, and many different pronunciations of them, I might not have even done those correct across the board, so do not assume… Great! So now that we know that gender identities can exist outside the binary, let’s explore that more. Kaitlyn can you tell me more about terms like gender queer, gender fluid, androgyny and demigirl or demiguy? I wanna start off by saying that gender can be confusing, it was for me, it was a huge process, it was years in the making Ahhhh- I am so sorry, I have to cut you short, this video is already, unfortunately, insanely long, but if you all wanna hear Kaitlyn, Chase and Olivia talk about gender queer, gender neutral and non binary identities, you can definitely tune in in a few days.

As for now, why don’t you tell me some fun things about your gender identity in the comments below. Okay, bye! *does signature mouth pop as sign off*, “follow me on twitter”. *endscreen music plays*.

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