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how do you cheer up an infp before i can answer please consider subscribing in the channel so i can afford a new shirt and hit the alert bell so you can be notified when i go live that being said what is up ego hackers did you like that one imcs joseph’s here to answer your questions on any topic analytical psychology or the four sides of the mind also known as four size dynamics the source of today’s question is cora as usual so let’s take a peek how do you cheer up an infp and looks like 19 answers definitely not going to be reading all of those so the first one uh is uh jessie moore certifiable infp 9w1 for their neogram and probably a book because that’s what infps do they write books uh it’s simple it’s pretty simple really but not necessarily easy hashtag spelling error listen sit with you friend their words and their sorrows truth is this might be uncomfortable for you it is for most people for some reason at some point in time helping a friend in distress become equated with work a job that needed to be accomplished efficiently at that advice that must be the answer if i give good advice based on a related experience and i don’t feel good for having imparted knowledge and if my friend does not know follow my advice then the responsibility is entirely on them how neat yeah not so much i recently lost my mother to cancer just a few months ago and a couple of friends have more or less stood up to make sure that i’m doing okay right now i don’t really know what that actually means regardless i receive regular assessments of note both have lost one or more parent and years prior so there is a sort of kindredness in all of it also of note my father’s ongoing though much more treatable cancer just relapsed a few weeks ago i’m trying to paint a picture here of what a bona fide infp and proper need of a cheer up might actually look like okay fair enough uh in exchange and exchange with one of these friends actually did just happen last night outside a bar while horrendously responsible inhaling some burning nicotine i told him i wasn’t well my mind was clear not ruminating on anything okay paraphrase okay said okay it ultimately felt patronizing because his friend gave him useless advice which sucks um and then if uh so anyway if you actually want to come for 9 fp do not do this okay so he showed us what not to do can actually be kind of productive both your friends well-being and even your relationship with them get in that damn cold pool of water shiver a bit feel it’s like uh where your infp friend is sitting it is in the depths of this chill stream where we can feel both more than alive and also sometimes completely isolated we need you to just sit with us our sorrow our grief and even our greatest joys that right there is probably one of those valuable things i’ve ever actually read on quora so thank you for posting this it is very true that we do separate ourselves while still longing for shared experience and recognition in both joy and sadness but this is not necessarily our fate more consequence of uncommon perspective and values clashing with modernity wow that’s well said very good if you truly wish to cheer up an infp in your life come sit with us for a while meet us where we wait if you’re willing to see what we so desperately wish to share and so desperately try to hide at the same time i promise that it will be the best gift you could possibly give to both of us this your infp friend there’s not really any need to discuss any other answers because that was amazing and yes jesse moore is definitely an infp i very well said but i will add my take on this because like why wouldn’t i you know what i’m saying so how do you cheer up an infp well the answer is um the answer is that like don’t um you kind of gotta delve into them you gotta dig into them a little bit right they’re not shallow people and you shouldn’t treat the michelle people sometimes they’ll want people to think that they’re shallow people for whatever reason but they’re not shallow people infps are probably have the biggest depth of soul out of anybody ever made and this is one of the reasons why most infps identify with a highly sensitive person hsp form of you know living etc because they have extreme depth to them they are basically their souls are these giant oceans that need to be penetrated and while they don’t like being penetrated sometimes they just need to be penetrated even if it’s an infp man with an enfj woman or an enj woman because e and j women are technically masculine and you know the masculine is there to penetrate the feminine and the vast soul of the infp is a very big feminine abode it’s like the allegory of the cave and their their soul is literally the cave that needs to be entered basically you know and that’s literally the whole point of it so an infp just wants to be traversed they want to be wanted wanted a desired enough such that someone would actually care to traverse the entire depth of soul that they actually have this is this is one of the most abstract ways of putting this but for the infps watching it they’d be like yes that’s me yes yes and and really to get to a point where you understand them they really need that also like since enfj is their golden pair they need someone to act like an enfj around them and enfj is provided they’re actually willing to listen although immature enfjs are like the people out there that try to get everyone else to listen to them without listening to anybody but if an enfj has their ti aspirational develop they become the greatest listeners of all the types and being able to listen to the experience the infp really makes the infp feel wanted and it makes them feel valued they don’t even have to have the problem solved the infp doesn’t have to have the problem solved it’s more that they just want to be heard it’s more that they just want their opinion to matter because the infp so desperately wants to matter and if an infp doesn’t matter guess what they feel the greatest level of depression ever because they just feel so novel right i’ve coached many infps struggling with depression even some of them on the edge of suicide because they from when they look at themselves they have this nasty habit of comparing themselves to other people and they just oftentimes feel like they don’t actually matter that’s why an nfj or an stp needs to come along and be like yeah actually you do matter and here’s why and they’ll actually list facts out as to why the infp matters and at that point they’re they they feel cheered up at that point they feel wanted at that point it’s like wow someone actually thinks highly of me someone actually noticed me because guess what folks infps are used to not being even noticed they’re used to not even being regarded such that they end up becoming disrespected and they feel disrespected whether or not people around them are actually disrespecting them but the fact that they are ignored and not noticed means they’re not even respected at all i have an infp on my team and i go out of my way to make sure that i listen to his opinion at all times even sometimes when he’s not even willing to share his opinion because i value his opinion i need his opinion i need to know what his opinion is because his opinion may be so far valuable and actually potentially prevent catastrophe for myself my team and this company in this community that i absolutely have to have him by my side it’s really important you know and all infps need that in some capacity because the infps eventually especially as they conduct their research and they develop their valuable opinion over time they’re able to develop principles and philosophies and ways of life entirely new ways of life and new ways of living that if if they if they don’t have the opportunity to share that opinion or to share that input with other people provide input to others to cause them to think about things differently well then they’re just basically going to feel completely novel uh a waste of space no one cares no one and no one’s giving me any credit they live and die by credit they need credit give them credit they already they already feel they already worry that they’re too selfish and they’re not caring enough as it is with their x-ray feeling nemesis they need credit so they stop worrying if you’re not going to give them credit for the good things that they do do guess what they’re just going to do what they think and that brings out the biggest evil out of the infp and it’s actually it can be very destructive to other people it can also be self-destructive as well and that just leads to an insane amount of depression it’s to a point where they just really like eff it and they end up making decisions regardless of the consequences to other people because it’s like i’ve been managing the consequences to other people but they don’t think highly enough or they won’t even allow me an opportunity to speak and infp’s greatest fear is that their opinion their voice is going to be squelched out by everyone else around them what are you and what are you doing to enable their voice quite frankly that’s what infps need and that my friends is exactly how you cheer up an infp if you like your chance that your question being answered on this channel please post it below in quora and tag me on it or leave it as a comment below if you want deep dive lectures on the science that focus on personal growth career development parenting sexuality uh please visit cs joseph.lifeforward members uh get an apprentice membership also known as a gold membership and uh we release multiple uh premium lectures per month if you really want to get into the deep dive and it’s similar to the format as the public lectures that we already have on this channel anyway folks that being said i’ll see you guys tonight

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